I wanna address how it is to move away from your friends at home cause I get a lot of email regarding it.
Yea, its hard. Especially in the beginning. During my first year I missed my friends so much I was talking to them almost every day, and if I was not doing that then I was telling my new friends in the States about my friends back at home. In other words: If I was not talking to them, I was talking about them.
However, even though I love all my friends back home, I can honestly say that I have lost contact with a lot of them. First of all I am a bad at keeping in touch with people Facebook stresses me out, especially in the beginning cause Norway is 9 hours ahead and I ended up having 24 hours of non stop communication with friends at home and friends here. It just became too much and I had to cut down. Secondly, I ran out of stuff to talk to them about. I would try to explain boy problems or school stuff to them, but for people who have never even visited me and seen how I live and what I do every day it becomes hard because they simply cant relate. Moreover, I cant relate to them anymore.
A big gap grows between you cause you never see eachother and because your life has become so different. But mostly the gap also comes from the fact that you are growing into different people. What we do, what we experience, and the people we meet influence us more than we think. I have never regretted moving to the states and I do really appreciate all the people I have met and made friends with cause I feel they have all made me into a better person. But having all these new experiences with places and people have made me grow, and thereby changed me. I am no longer the same person I was when I first moved here, and I cant expect my friends to be the same people either.
We change, and that is totally normal and okay, but because of it and the distance a gap grows between us. Relationships are built upon experiences. Those long nights chatting with your best friend during a slumber party, or that fun trip you guys had, and that “one time at bandcamp”.. All of those fun and close experiences you guys had binds you together and the glue becomes “oh! do you remember that one time..”. Its experiences you can relate to and talk about, but once you no longer have that the glue weakens and a gap begins to grow.
Its natural, and it will most likely happen. But you will meet new people that are equally as nice, fun, smart and amazing as your best friends back home. Dont ever forget your old friends and all the fun you had with them, but acknowledge the fact that moving abroad will forever change your relationships.